Comments on: Making the Hard Decisions – Caring for Your Elderly Parents http://www.creditwithdrawal.com/wordpress/2009/01/12/making-the-hard-decisions-caring-for-your-elderly-parents/ Helping You Kick the Credit Habit, One Good Idea at a Time Thu, 31 Dec 2009 04:56:04 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Emily http://www.creditwithdrawal.com/wordpress/2009/01/12/making-the-hard-decisions-caring-for-your-elderly-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-2722 Emily Wed, 11 Feb 2009 00:05:15 +0000 http://www.creditwithdrawal.com/wordpress/?p=1005#comment-2722 I am definitely not looking forward to this part of life, but I think it's certainly worth thinking about ahead of time. My parents have done so much for me and taken such good care of me, I only hope that I will be able to support them when they're older if they need help. A friend who is a single mom and in hard financial times said her mother is having a hard time financially as well, but they moved in together and are helping each other make ends meet; even better, the daughter is very young, so the grandmother stays at home with her and prevents the mom from having to pay for daycare. I love that! <abbr><em>Emilys last blog post..<a href="http://blogs.creditcards.com/2009/02/heartland-data-breach-aftershocks-continue.php" rel="nofollow">Heartland data breach aftershocks continue</a></em></abbr> I am definitely not looking forward to this part of life, but I think it’s certainly worth thinking about ahead of time. My parents have done so much for me and taken such good care of me, I only hope that I will be able to support them when they’re older if they need help. A friend who is a single mom and in hard financial times said her mother is having a hard time financially as well, but they moved in together and are helping each other make ends meet; even better, the daughter is very young, so the grandmother stays at home with her and prevents the mom from having to pay for daycare. I love that!

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]]> By: TStrump http://www.creditwithdrawal.com/wordpress/2009/01/12/making-the-hard-decisions-caring-for-your-elderly-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-2698 TStrump Sat, 24 Jan 2009 03:16:07 +0000 http://www.creditwithdrawal.com/wordpress/?p=1005#comment-2698 Sounds like you took very good care of your mother. We have a similar story - we were also poor growing up and my mother was always good with money. She is now retired and to this day, has never had a credit card. I am noticing a change in our relationship, too. I wouldn't say I've become the 'parent' but I do check up on her frequently. I have to be careful because if I try to help too much, she does get a little irritated. Sounds like you took very good care of your mother.
We have a similar story – we were also poor growing up and my mother was always good with money.
She is now retired and to this day, has never had a credit card.
I am noticing a change in our relationship, too. I wouldn’t say I’ve become the ‘parent’ but I do check up on her frequently.
I have to be careful because if I try to help too much, she does get a little irritated.

]]> By: plonkee http://www.creditwithdrawal.com/wordpress/2009/01/12/making-the-hard-decisions-caring-for-your-elderly-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-2679 plonkee Thu, 15 Jan 2009 12:46:42 +0000 http://www.creditwithdrawal.com/wordpress/?p=1005#comment-2679 When someone is vulnerable, it's particularly difficult to think that you know what's best for them. But, a competent adult is capable of making their own decisions about where to live - just because you can see that it would be better for their physical health for example, doesn't mean it would be better for their mental health. I'm certain that you did the ok as far as your mother was concerned - if you'd pushed her to go into a retirement home sooner, she may well not have felt coerced and not adjusted at all. When someone is vulnerable, it’s particularly difficult to think that you know what’s best for them. But, a competent adult is capable of making their own decisions about where to live – just because you can see that it would be better for their physical health for example, doesn’t mean it would be better for their mental health.

I’m certain that you did the ok as far as your mother was concerned – if you’d pushed her to go into a retirement home sooner, she may well not have felt coerced and not adjusted at all.

]]> By: Randall http://www.creditwithdrawal.com/wordpress/2009/01/12/making-the-hard-decisions-caring-for-your-elderly-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-2658 Randall Tue, 13 Jan 2009 06:06:42 +0000 http://www.creditwithdrawal.com/wordpress/?p=1005#comment-2658 Thanks everyone, I appreciate the sentiments. It was hard to not 'do more', but I think I ended up doing enough. Thanks everyone,

I appreciate the sentiments. It was hard to not ‘do more’, but I think I ended up doing enough.

]]> By: Four Pillars http://www.creditwithdrawal.com/wordpress/2009/01/12/making-the-hard-decisions-caring-for-your-elderly-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-2657 Four Pillars Tue, 13 Jan 2009 05:21:53 +0000 http://www.creditwithdrawal.com/wordpress/?p=1005#comment-2657 What a great post - I'm glad you did what you could for you mother. Mike What a great post – I’m glad you did what you could for you mother.

Mike

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